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    Buried Truth

    by bkjax October 26, 2025

    In 1993, when he was 48, Jim Graham learned a secret that turned his whole world upside down—that his father wasn’t John Graham, the gruff and distant man who raised him. His biological father, he discovered, had been a Catholic priest, Father Thomas Sullivan. It was a secret that Sullivan, Graham’s mother, and John Graham took to their graves. 

    When Graham was a small child, his mother left Buffalo with Father Sullivan, taking the boy along. But ten months later, private detectives had tracked them down and Graham was returned to his home. The church did everything possible to ensure that the boy would never know about his origins. 

    Graham was determined to uncover the truth, but the church thwarted him at every turn. To bury the scandal, it used its vast power and all its resources to obstruct, deny, and obfuscate. 

    Graham sought answers from Father Sullivan’s order, the Missionary Oblates of Mary Immaculate. Father Savage, a contemporary of his father, after admitting that Graham looked just like the priest, warned him: “Forget the injustices of the past.”  

    But Graham persisted. For 25 years, he relentlessly chipped  at the truth and hammered away at the church gatekeepers, determined to find the information he believed was his birthright—proof that he was, in fact, Father Sullivan’s son. 

    Read about his tenacity and remarkable search in his new memoir, Buried Truth: A Poignant Story of a Man’s Search for His Father, Exposing Powerful Forces Bent on Hiding the Truth. 

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    The Ring of Truth

    by bkjax October 19, 2025
    October 19, 2025

    When I was 38, after both parents had died, I found out my mother wasn’t my birthmother.

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    One Big Happy Family

    by bkjax October 8, 2025
    October 8, 2025

    Actress, producer, and screenwriter Lisa Brenner has reimagined her DNA surprise story

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    Unfixed: A Memoir of Family, Mystery and the Currents That Carry You Home

    by bkjax October 1, 2025
    October 1, 2025

    Kimberly Warner’s Unfixed is a wonder. Beyond a mesmerizing story

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The Lost Family: How DNA is Upending Who We Are, by Libby Copeland. Check our News & Reviews section for a review of this excellent book about the impact on the culture of direct-to-consumer DNA testing.

What Happens When Parents Wait to Tell a Child He’s Adopted

“A new study suggests that learning about one’s adoption after a certain age could lead to lower life satisfaction in the future.”

Janine Vance Searches for the Truth About Korean Adoptees

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Who’s Your Daddy? The Twisty History of Paternity Testing

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“This is what happens inside children when they are forcibly separated from their parents.”

Truth: A Love Story

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Dear Therapist: The Child My Daughter Put Up for Adoption is Now Rejecting Her

“She thought that her daughter would want to meet her one day. Twenty-five years later, that’s not true.”

I’m Adopted and Pro-Choice. Stop Using My Story for the Anti-Abortion Agenda. Stephanie Drenka’s essay for the Huffington Post looks at the way adoptees have made unwilling participants in conversations about abortion.

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